Family Ties

The entire family has been together in Florida since Sunday. I know I mentioned this earlier but all together we are a group of 13. 8 adults and 5 children is the breakdown so with that large of a group comes 13 different personalities not to mention none of us live close to each other so we do not know what the daily operations are within each sub family. We have Emily, Ben and their 3 kids then Kelly and Billy with their child and last me and Izzy with our child. I'm not forgetting my parents its just with no small children their daily operations don't count. The group has had a few activities this week with the exception of Izzy and me everyone has been together. (He and I did not take any time off from work). So when there is a large group trying to do an activity we all know each of us has a different when of doing it and most people already know MY WAY IS THE RIGHT WAY. How do you throw the towel in a say, "Whatever works for the group is how we will operate" Is there a way to change your daily mentality from a sub group with your own way of operating to "We are a large group and all have to compromise". Is it too difficult to have fun with a large group?

It is a challenge to have fun and be easy breezy in a group when no one is willing to compromise and accommodate each other for the sake of peace because somewhere along the way one person feels either sad, mad or out of place. The person who tries to keeps the peace gets bitter and the person who feels out of place gets sad so the end result is the days activity sucks for at least 2 people. Then think about the rest of the group and how they suffer. People are put in the middle or the take sides so now the good time as turned into a awful time for all.

My idea is this; there is not many times that sub families come together to be one big family and the times we do get together as a large group we need to set are personality differences aside and enjoy each other. I mean there are people in this world that don't have big families that would give anything up in this world to have an opportunity to have what we have. We should not take for granted what we have built. We started out as a family of 5 and grew to a family of 13 that is an accomplishment that we should be proud of and embrace. The few times a year that we all get to be together we need to cherish because we never know when 1 of the 13 will not be with us any longer.

It never made sense to me that it takes a tragedy for people to come together and get along. Its only in sad times when we put aside are differences and love each other...Why? Why not put aside are differences now while we are all here doing fun stuff and being able to build a memory of happiness? I guess that is asking for too much. Either way I just wish that each of us would not take for granted what we have and what we built and what we will leave behind when were gone. I know its hard to remember all the good things a family has to offer but if we could try a little harder when we all come together to enjoy ourselves we have a good chance of walking away with a bitter sweet feeling. Bitter because our time together is over but sweet because we had so much fun!

Until Next Time... Blog to Dream