The art of being wise is knowing what to overlook

My sister and I had talked about something today that I want to share with you. She has been fighting with herself about spoiling her kids and she thinks that they get whatever they want. This may be true but I think she may be making a bigger deal out of what it really is. Please make no mistake about what I am saying, I think that she is one of the best parents I know and I am not sure how many of us would ever be able to admit that are kids are spoiled and want to change it but she has done both.

Since her children have been born my sister has dedicated her whole life to them and has done a great job so far:) I also have to tell you that she is very very smart and in my world has all the answers to every parenting question I have this is why I am so confused at her not knowing how to handle this problem or why she even thinks it's a problem. As we spoke she was telling me that she had given her kids a famous Bill Williams speech.....No Good those were the speeches that my dad would give us a kids and would go on and on and on...you get the idea. She was telling them how good they have it and all the things they should be greatful for BLAH BLAH BLAH! It brought me right back to when I was a kid and I hated it! I stopped her from finishing to tell her this....If you have it to give then you should give because you only live once and enjoy it. We have all heard that a thousand times but does it really sink in?

Kids are only gonna be kids once and how do you want to be remebered? Isn't there a way to give your children what they want and teach them lessons at the same time? I think so. You have to know how, what and when in order to get the point across. Why when you are giving the children what they want you don't telll them something like..."Mommy is geting this for you because you want it and we are lucky enough to do that" or something like that. I don't think it is fair that a child has to go without if they really don't need to. What is the lesson? There is no lesson there so stop doing it.

Sometimes we want so badly to do the right thing and teach are children what is the right thing that maybe we are teaching them wrong. I think the art of great parenting is picking and choosing your lessons and this one might be a lesson not learning. Our kids will be faced with many of lessons that we have to tech so instead of overloading them with LONG talks about everything to the point of them not listening to us we should save our talks for the lessons that really matter and I think the kids will be willing to listen. I may be wrong but I may be right.... You Decide

Until Next Time......Blog to talk